This week's video the one you're watching now will be on YouTube Next week's video will be on Patreon. It is 90 minutes before I have to be there. But I know I am running late literally and I also know that I will be there on time 11:00 a.m. Billies in Koga I've never been there before and I will make it God Willing This is the lecture I dream about giving to habitually late people while I am waiting for them.

but I can't give them this lecture out of a sense of decency. So to those of my beautiful brothers and sisters who are punctual people who care about others and are considerate of others who take pains to be a punctual person, this lecture is dedicated to you and I'm sure you've felt this way too. Got to be on that motorcycle in 28 minutes. And I know it has a full tank of gas.

Let The Healing Begin Tardiness is not an insignificant Quirk tardiness is among the most disrespectful behaviors that you can bestow upon your fellow man. when you are habitually late. For me, you, you are telling me I don't respect you you whether you intend to tell me that or not. That is the message that you send to me when you are habitually late.

So what does habitually late mean? What do I mean by habitually late Habitually late is being late once or more time per week for anything. Meaning, if you have 80 things to do this week and you're on time for 79 of them, and then next week you have 100 things to do and you're on time for 99 of them. You're habitually late and that sounds ridiculous to you, doesn't it? That's why you're always late. So what is an acceptable rate of tardiness? How often are you allowed to be late and you are allowed to be late? Because we are human beings, beings and things happen.

And this is how often you are allowed to be late. You are allowed to be late for anything. once per month, not once for work, not once for a friend. You are allowed to be late once a month for everything for your friends.

For specific human beings, you allowed to be late once per year. If you are a punctual person, then you are late only once per month and and once per year per individual. Sounds ridiculous, but that's why you're always late. Okay, if you're meeting me, 5 minutes late is not late.

I will allow you to be five minutes late and I won't consider that late. Six minutes late. You've burned through your year. But 5 minutes late.

Like the movie Drive You're good. You give me a time and a place I Give you a F- minute window. Anything happens in that 5 minutes and I'm Yours No matter what, anything happens, a minute. Either side of that and you're on your own.

6 minutes late counts against your one a month, one a year allowance for myself. I Don't allow myself to be 5 minutes late If I'm 5 minutes late I'm late in my mind. Okay, how do we do it? How are punctual people? punctual? We're not born that way way. It's not something that comes natural to us.

It's work like any other achievement. It is work like anything that you care about, its work and sacrifice and consideration of others. But it boils down also to simple principles. It's hundreds of little organization and maintenance rituals that keep us punctual, and keeping your computer clean is one of them.

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You think you're good at it, but you suck at it So late people. This is what late people do. Ready, they check their Google at 7 a.m. on a Sunday How long does it take to get to LAX And then for a late person, that's how long it takes to get there.

No matter what, it takes 28 minutes to get there from TOA Canyon or whatever. So 28 minutes from when they have to pick their friend up from the the airport, they start looking for their keys, start putting their shoes on. start Google Maps The destination Billy's fashion Billy's reinforcing steel. Nope.

Oh, it's not called Billy. It's called Henry's okay. 25 minutes. Okay, that means I'll be 9 minutes early if I'm in a car.

All the tiny little hundreds of little jobs that you have to do in order to execute your arrival, they begin late People to late people begin at the time that it says it's going to take you to get there. This is how you estimate how long it's going to take you to get somewhere. You go to your Google and you check how long it takes to get to that place. But you check during rush hour.

You check at 9:00 a.m. or you know, 5:00 p.m. Then you take that time and you double it and that's when you begin to leave. What you have to do is double the time and I Know that sounds ridiculous, but that's why you're late all the time I am very nearly always on time and I very nearly always double the amount of time that Google tells me it's going to take and I almost always use Google even if I've been to the place 100 times and know how to get there because Google will reroute me around traffic and I usually only arrive about 5 to 10 minutes early and I'd like to take this opportunity to apologize to the folks I met in Austin in January for being like 15 minutes late with my family.

that is on me. So to Alan and Jenna and Coco and Stewart and Elaine and Stuart's mom I apologize for being late to that dinner that is on me but I won't be late for the next year and I promise you that this is my unfair Advantage Principle number two: Killing Time didn't count on this. Now when you give yourself enough time to get there, you will often kill too much time and then you're going to be late. The principle for killing time is this: you cannot kill time until you've arrived at your destination and parked.

You basically have to You kill time. You basically have to be at your destination like if you're meeting someone at a diner. You basically have to be in the foyer of the diner before you're allowed to kill time. 1044 Principle Number three: When you're making the arrangements, meet at a specific place unless it's totally obvious like at your house or something.

But if you're meeting at Yankee Stadium don't just say I'll meet you at Yankee Stadium pick a specific place you know ticket booth C1 Uh, I Was once late meeting Jack because we decided at a certain time to meet at Bob's Big Boy Jack sent me a text while I was riding a motorcycle 90 M hour splitting Lanes on the 101 to be there on time which I was. He emailed me that he had gotten a table and I didn't get the email or the text and so I was late to meeting him at that table. but I wasn't really late. but I'll own that that I was late for that because I wasn't specific enough to you know, pick a specific meeting place as well as as meeting time.

Which brings us to Principle number four: no calms during the commute time. no communication during the time when the person you are meeting is traveling is taking the sub way, walking, driving, flying to where you're supposed to meet tardy people. This is one of the most disgusting things that tardy people do. Um, you know you'll be driving across town.

It's an hour and a half, but you know you're you're a punctual person so you've taken all the precautions even though you're sitting in traffic. maybe you've had some emergency and and you the the punctual person is like really focused like a warrior to get there on time to get there on time to get there on time. but you're you know you're driving or you're parking or you're looking for the place and you're super focused and this person is texting you I'm going to be 40 minutes I'm going to be 10 minutes late and then they're 30 minutes late I'm going to be F I'm looking like sorry, sorry, sorry I'm running late sorry if you're running late and you want to reset the clock which I think is okay to do might also help the other person, but you must reach that person be before they've left. And I mean reach sent does not mean receive not texting them, but texting them and receiving Roger got your message or call them.

An extreme example of this for me: I Once VIA Mail Like not email via stamps and envelopes mail. Made an arrangement to visit a friend who's never been late for me. ever in 20 years that I've known him. I made an arrangement via the mail I will meet you at your apartment in Berlin on such and such Date: At such and such time two months go by, no communication back and forth nothing.

it's 5 minutes early. I Flew across an ocean I left from New York City I Flew across across an ocean, figured out all the trains and planes and all of that and the baggage and blah blah blah. and I met him at his apartment at 5 minutes earlier. then blah blah blah.

Principle Number Five: Your excuses are your own traffic. Really In: Los Angeles You had traffic. That's why you're late. Wow.

Your phone died. Oh really. What are you seven? Oh, Work a work thing. Oh really.

We all work. Oh the kids. The kids. The kids.

Okay, they're your kids. Just a little pointer with kids. You have to give kids an extreme amount of of wiggle room to to be on time. You can't blame it on your kids.

You have to give them. Kids are extremely slow and you have to accommodate for that. Had to get gas on my time. You had to get gas on my time.

Okay, all right. Force Maure some crazy. Black Swan Event Fine. You get one of those a month and you get one of those a year because that's about the frequency with which those those happen.

Principle Number six: Be a cop. This is like if you're in a couple situation and you're the untime one and your partner is like a terrorist and always makes you run late. You have to be a cop and what you do is you have a departure time that's set in stone. We have to leave by such and such.

clutch. This is what they say in the motorcycle Adventure business clutches out at such and such and then if that person isn't ready, just go take separate cars, meet you there, catch an Uber and you got to you can't Bluff and you get there on time and then when it comes up in Coupes therapy you tell the therapist and the therapist will take your side and the therapist will say to the other person, why do you make this person be late all the time and if the therapist doesn't take your side, fire them. Principal Seven Allowances There are some things you don't have to be on time for if a person is hosting you for dinner at their house. It is polite to arrive 10 minutes after the stated time for dinner, and it's impolite to arrive early for dinner because they might be vacuuming in their underwear.

Parties You can get to parties whenever you want. You can get there 5 minutes before everybody leaves unless it's a surprise party, then you have to be absolutely punctual to not spoil the surprise and God help you if you spoil a surprise party. Now if you're going to a dinner party that says drinks at blank drinks at 7, meal at 9: you don't have to be there in time for the drinks, but you got to be there in time for the meal cuz you know everybody's sitting at the table, you don't want them waiting for you. Meeting a family at the mall? You don't have to be on time because there's so much to do at the mall and there is no commute time when you get there so you can text and figure out ah, where are you guys blah blah blah.

However, meeting a family for a dinner at the mall at a restaurant where the host or Hostess won't seat the party until you're there Have to be on time. A movie at the mall? You have to be on time. obviously the playground. You don't really have to be on time if you're meeting friends at the playground for play date for the kids.

Qualifiers qualifiers give you 15 minutes and if you're a habitually late person and you're just learning how to be on time, you're going to need to wait a year before you start using qualifiers because you're just not ready for them yet. You're not ready for the you're not ready for the grace period and a qualifier is I'll meet you around 7 about 7:15 in the neighborhood of 7 and you have 15 minutes from that about around near you have 15 minutes. You don't have to be on time for your onthe clock employees or subordinates. during working hours.

they're being paid for their time and if you're paying for it, you can be as late as you want basically, but only during working hours. One of the reasons I'm doing this is because it's been a growing frustration of mine for over a decade and there's no accountability for it. If you love these people, they just get away with it and get away with it and get away with it and get away with it. And then you're the bad guy for getting up in their face.

It's like totally okay to victim blame if you're a late person. But I'll tell you what if you are my friend. If you consider yourself my friend, a friend of Van Neistat and you are habitually late, I will slowly and subconsciously Death By A Thousand Cuts make myself unavailable to you, take my time away from you that you have taken away from me in my punctuality waiting for you, and then eventually you'll just sort of disappear into the world of others of all the other late people. When I was a kid, my classy grandmother had this book called Etiquette by Emily Post and we all called it the Emily Post book of Etiquette and this was the only access I had when I was young to how like rich and sophisticated people behaved.

This was the only thing I kind of had access to I couldn't go to their restaurants or their country clubs or anything like that I didn't know any rich or sophisticated people and so I came to believe that this was like a manual for how to be rich and sophisticated. but that is not what this is that is not what this etiquette book is. And in the opening chapter, uh, Mrs Post Emily Post who literally wrote the book on etiquette said that this is sort of the code of behavior to be among best. Society Not richest Society Not best looking, tallest, best educated Society Best society And with with good etiquette with careful consideration for our friends and for our fellow human beings, we can be a part of anything including best society and who who would want to be a part of anything but the best.

Society is not a fellowship of the wealthy, knowledge of the social amenities, and instinctive consideration for the feelings of others are the credentials by which society the world over recognizes its chosen members. Henry's breakfast, lunch, and dinner I'm on time Kevin is usually here before me and he's always on time and he's busy. I've seen people change I know a certain famous artist in New York City who was late for everything forever and I've seen him change and work on it. And for me, he's punctual now.

He makes an effort, he makes the effort and I can see it. And I think most importantly, not most importantly, but I think selfishly, a wonderful byproduct of punctuality is that it's a beautiful way to live. You will feel your life getting better. You will understand that you have to be now.

more honest. If you want to be on time, you'll have to really think about how long it takes to do things and then you will provide yourself such a long Runway to do things that you'll be able to enjoy the process of getting from point A to B Or you know, meeting friends at such and such and such and 7 minutes early. Hey, what's up best Society Be on time on this week's Patreon only video. Here are the screws that concern my shop I Rarely use Nails because screws are better for at least two reasons: You can get a tighter connection with a screw than with a nail and you can take the thing apart if it's assembled with screws.